Question

Do you struggle to say no? If you can’t ever say no to anybody, then your relationships are not healthy.

1.. Imagine that you are a confident person who marries a very aggressive person. You love your partner very much, so when he or she suggests that you both move to an isolated (偏远的) island, you say yes.

Then you spend ten years on the island with your partner and you don’t see anybody else. 2., shouting at you and calling you stupid. You try to change your behaviour to avoid getting shouted at, so after a while you never do anything that you want to do. 3.. After ten years you return to the mainland. You are no longer a confident person because you have forgotten how to be yourself.

That is how our relationships with others can shape who we are in a bad way. Does this sound like you?

4.. An aggressive person uses dominating(专横的) behaviour to get what he or she wants without thinking of others. An assertive person is someone who is able to say what they want but also respect what others want. You could say that being assertive is about being true to yourself and who you are.

But being assertive doesn’t mean that you have to say what you want all the time. 5., you don’t have to stop in order to be true to yourself. Maybe your truth is that you are happy to sometimes do things you dislike if doing them helps other people.

A.You partner is very aggressive

B.Relationships shape who we are

C.Learning to deal with different relationships is important

D.Being assertive(坚定自信的) is not the same as being aggressive

E.Your entire life is about avoiding being shouted at

F.You often feel depressed because of her aggressive behavior

G.For example, if you strongly dislike playing chess every week with your recently divorced friend

Answer

1.B

2.A

3.E

4.D

5.G

【解析】

本文是一篇说明文，我们要学会对别人说“不”，如果我们不会拒绝，那么与别人的关系会很不健康，文章中用具体事例说明我们应该坚定自信对别人的不合理要求说不。

1.本句是一个中心句，根据本段叙述的事例可知如果我们总是对别人做出让步，会改变我们的性格。也就是说与伴侣的关系可能会塑造我们的性格行为。B项“Relationships shape who we are”符合上下文语境，所以要选择B项。

2.考查上下文串联。根据上一段的you are a confident person who marries a very aggressive person.可知伴侣是一个非常强势的人，有很强的控制欲。A项“You partner is very aggressive”符合上下文串联，所以要选择A项。

3.根据前句“You try to change your behavior to avoid getting shouted at…”可知你总说改变你的行为，避免和伴侣发生冲突，所以你不会去做你自己想做的事情了。你整个生活都是关于避免与她/他发生冲突。E项“Your entire life is about avoiding being shouted at”符合上下文语境，所以E项正确。

4.横线后两句对“专横”与“坚定自信”之间的差异做出了说明，两者之间的差异十分清楚。D项“Being assertive(坚定自信的) is not the same as being aggressive”符合上下文语境，所以D项正确。

5.横线前句“But being assertive doesn’t mean that you have to say what you want all the time.”坚定自信并不意味着你要说出你一直想要说的事情。本句是列举具体事例，G项“For example, if you strongly dislike playing chess every week with your recently divorced friend”与后句“you don’t have to stop in order to be true to yourself.”一致。故G项正确。