Question

Many parents have learned the hard way that what sounds like open communication is often the very thing that closes a youngster’s ears and mouth. One common mistake is the Lecture, the long monologue that often starts with “When I was your age” Eighteen-year-old Kelly calls lectures “long, one-side discussions in which I don’t say much.”

Kids reflexively(条件反射地)shut down in the face of a lecture. Their eyes glaze over(呆滞),and they don’t register any incoming information. Listen to 13-year-old Sarah describe her least favorite times with her mom and dad. “First, they scream. Then comes the ‘We’re so disappointed’ speech. Then the ‘I never did that to my parents’ lecture begins. After that, even if they realize how ridiculous they sound they never take it back.”

Lines like “When you have children of your own, you’ll understand” have been seriously said by parents since time immemorial. But many of our expert parents, like Bobby, a registered nurse and mother of three, feel that by falling back on clichés(陈词滥调)to justify your actions, we weaken our position.

Since kids are creatures of here and now, the far-off future has no relevance to them. Therefore, good communicators like Bobby suggest, “Give specific reasons for your actions in present language: ‘I’m not letting you go to the party because I don’t think there will be enough adult supervisions.’”

Betty, who lives in Missouri, uses an indirect approach. “I find that warnings are accepted more readily if I discuss a news article on a subject I am concerned about. My husband and I talk about it while our children absorb the information. Then they never think I’m preaching(布道).”

This really helped when Betty’s kids began driving. Instead of constantly repeating “Don’t drink; don’t speed,” she would talk about articles in the paper and express sympathy for the victims of a car crash. Betty made no special effort to draw her kids into the conversation. She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions---especially if he thinks he isn’t being asked for them.

1.The purpose of the passage is to __________.

A. compare two ways of parents communicating with their kids

B. explain why kids won’t listen to their parents

C. give parents advice on how to communicate with their kids

D. introduce kids’ reaction to the communication between them and their parents

2.Which of the following statements is NOT right?

A. Kids don’t like any discussion at all

B. Many kids think they have no right to express their own opinions

C. Some kids think their parents should apologize when they are wrong

D. Kids won’t listen to their parents because they think what their parents say is boring

3.What does the underlined word “monologue’ in the first paragraph mean?

A. discussion

B. conversation

C. a speech by two persons

D. a long speech by one persona speech by two persons

4.Which of the following topic may appeal to kids?

A. Things related to children’s present life

B. Kids possible life in the future

C. Parents’ own experience

D. What parents have done to their own parents

5.In order to make kids follow their advice, parents should________.

A. tell their kids to listen carefully

B. set out their warnings directly

C. arouse kids’ desire to express themselves

D. list out as many examples as possible

Answer

1.C

2.A

3.D

4.A

5.C

【解析】本文介绍一些建议，关于父母如何和孩子交流。

1.C

目的意图题。根据文章第一段Many parents have learned the hard way that what sounds like open communication is often the very thing that closes a youngster’s ears and mouth. One common mistake is the Lecture, the long monologue that often starts with “When I was your age” Eighteen-year-old Kelly calls lectures “long, one-side discussions in which I don’t say much.”可知这篇文章的目的是关于父母如何和孩子交流。故选C。

2.A

推理判断题。根据第一段中One common mistake is the Lecture, the long monologue that often starts with “When I was your age” Eighteen-year-old Kelly calls lectures “long, one-side discussions in which I don’t say much.”推知孩子们不喜欢只是父母在说，由此可知他们喜欢讨论，故选A。

3.D

词义猜测题。根据第一段中Eighteen-year-old Kelly calls lectures “long, one-side discussions in which I don’t say much.”可知孩子不喜欢本来是两个人的谈话，却变成了父母一个人长时间的演讲，可知D项a long speech by one persona speech by two persons符合划线词的意思。

4.A

推理判断题。根据第四段中Therefore, good communicators like Bobby suggest, “Give specific reasons for your actions in present language: ‘I’m not letting you go to the party because I don’t think there will be enough adult supervisions.’”谈论与孩子目前有关的事情。故选A。

5.C

推理判断题。根据最后一段中的Betty made no special effort to draw her kids into the conversation. She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions---especially if he thinks he isn’t being asked for them.为了让孩子听从你的建议，父母应该激起孩子们表达自己的欲望。故选C。