When a friend approaches you in the heat of a moment, it can be hard to know what to say. There’ no blanket approach for every person through every crisis (危急), but a few guidelines could help you offer the best support.
Friends going through a crisis often just need someone to talk to and explore their feelings with, but the trick is to listen without sounding like you’re judging. Reorganize “why” questions, which can imply you’re questioning their judgment, but ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions, and ‘who’ and ‘when’ seem caring and sincere.
Open-ended questions that can’t be answered with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ will also help friends dig into their deepest feelings during a crisis. While your loved ones talk through their replies, practice active listening by focusing on their answers. After all, your friends probably just need someone to listen and prove them, rather than hearing you offer potentially unhelpful advice.
When you do respond，avoid telling friends in crisis how they “should” be feeling. “ ‘Should’ is not a valid term, saying it’s not OK for you to feel these societally ‘weak’ feelings,” says Michelle Kuchuk, director of training for Crisis Text Line. “If you’re only hearing ‘you should feel great’, you’re never going to speak again or get that weight off your chest if you think other people will judge you.”
On the other hand, tying those positive feelings to a specific action can feel more sincere. If friends hear “you’re so strong” without an example to back it up, they might never believe it. But if they’ve been explaining how hard it was to talk to someone else, praise them for taking that brave step.
Finally, it’s more important for a friend to know you’re there for support than stressing about saying the right thing during a crisis. Just be a friend and really listen to that person, not with your own agenda but “what is this person really going through?”
1.Who is this passage intended for?
A. People to be consultants. B. People in need of support.
C. People going through a crisis. D. People supporting friends in crisis.
2.What is your most suitable question to ask one talking to you?
A. Who did that1? B. When did you start it?
C. How did you feel about it1? D. Why did you feel that way?
3.What does the underlined part mean in the 4th paragraph?
A. Tell the truth out. B. Relieve their pressure.
C. Keep everything secret. D. Leave your baggage behind.
4.What is suggested to respond to your friends’ talking?
A. Preparing your questions beforehand.
B. Giving them as many instructions as possible.
C. Praising them constantly by encouraging words.
D. Expressing your appreciation for a small behavior.
Jon Hoffman was sitting at a red light when he saw a man run out of a store carrying a plastic donation jar full of cash. The Plano, Texas, detective# dressed in plain clothes but wearing his badge and gun, caught the man and pinned him to the hood of his car. But Hoffman had trouble containing the thief, and they got into a struggle.
“The detective has a martial (军事的) arts background, and he said he thought the suspect must have a martial arts background, too, because he was able to break away so easily,” a Plano police spokesperson said.
The detective called out for help as a crowd gathered. Among those watching: Andre Harvey and Kirby Sample, two day laborers. Harvey did what has become common these days—he took out his phone and hit record. “I hate to say it, but I thought that this policeman was doing something stupid,” Harvey said. “But when he asked for help, I thought, well, there won’t be a shooting if I get over there in time.” Harvey jumped into action —while he was still recording the video—as did Sample.
“Harvey caught hold of the suspect’s arms, while Kirby seized his legs, and they were able to get the suspect to the ground to help Detective Hoffman put the handcuffs (手铐)on,” said the police spokesperson. The 27-year-old suspect was charged with resisting arrest and other offenses. The charity jar he stole held less than $ 50.
“I’ve been on the wrong side of the law several times in my life,” Harvey told WFAA. “It feels good to be on the right side and do something positive.”
After the arrest, the three men got to know each other over steaks and ribs at a local steak house — Hoffman’s treat, as a thank-you. But the rescuers say Hoffman deserves credit too. “It could have turned real ugly,” Sample told KFOR. com. “He handled himself like a real professional.”
1.What made Hoffman call for help when arresting the suspect?
A. He was not on duty. B. He couldn’t control the suspect.
C. He needed witnesses to support him. D. He wanted to push the thief into the car.
2.Why did Harvey and Kirby record the scene at the beginning?
A. To follow the fashion B. To record the cop’s violence.
C. To keep track of the criminal. D. To avoid being involved in the incident.
3.What can be inferred about Harvey?
A. He was ready to violate the law. B. He was out of work at that time.
C. He had a good martial arts background. D. He might have had some illegal conducts.
4.What is Harvey and Sample’s attitude towards Hoffman?
A. Appreciative. B. Prejudiced.
C. Skeptical. D. Admirable.
When facing bullying(欺凌), some kids are hesitant to bring up struggles at school. Open the lines of communication between you and your kids with these important reads.
LlamaLlama and the Bully Goat
Finding story books about bullying isn’t easy, especially if you are concerned about scaring your young child. In the light-hearted picture book by Anna Dewdney, LlamaLlama comes face to face with a bully for the very first time. This fun book is a great way to start tallying about being kind and speaking up when someone is using mean words and is written for children from 2 to 5 years old.
I Like Myself
A child who loves herself will face bullying with confidence and feel strong enough to stand up for what is right. From! Like Myself by Karen Beaumont, kids can learn that being themselves is enough from this light-hearted read. Written for preschool-aged children and older, use the silly pictures and fun rhymes to start talking to your kids about feeling strong and confident in who they are, no matter what others say.
Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon
Molly Lou Melon is different, but that has never mattered before. In Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon, a bully picks on Molly on the very first day of school and because of the things that make her different. Instead of coming to terms with being laughed at, Molly knows how to stand up for herself. Written for preschoolers and up, this book is a great way to open up a conversation about how to handle bullying if your kids are being teased or witnessing bullying at school.
The Bully from the Black Lagoon
The Bully from the Black Lagoon is a newer addition to the popular series of Black Lagoon books by Mike Thaler and Jared Lee and is written for kids aged 4 to 8. When a new kid named Butch Pounder joins his school, Hubie is worried that he is a bully. The truth is, Butch is just looking for a friend. This book could be a great way to start a conversation about not judging others based on appearance.
1.Who would be the target readers of these books?
A. Children and parents. B. Children and teenagers.
C. Teachers and students. D. Parents and educators.
2.What can we learn about Llama Llama and the Bully Goat?
A. Its written for preschoolers and up.
B. It is a picture book with scaring stories.
C. It advises kids to be brave to express themselves.
D. It tells of the writer’s own experience with a bully.
3.Which book tells kids not to judge a book by its cover1?
A. Llama Llama and the Bully Goat. B. The Bully from the Black Lagoon.
C. Stand Tall # Molly Lou Melon. D. I Like Myself.
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Last Friday, our school organized us to a fire station, what we had expected for several day. When we got there, the fire-fighters welcomed us but led us into an exhibition hall. There one of them delivered the lecture on fire control to us. After that, they show us how to operate a fire extinguisher, and even gave our chances to practise using it. Now, I dare say I can use it skillful! On our way home, we couldn’t help to talking about what we had experienced. We felt very happy and excited because we had gained so many knowledge about fire control and known what to do an emergency.
Of the three major drinks of the world—tea, coffee and cocoa—tea is consumed by the
1.(large) number of people.
China is the homeland of tea. Human cultivation of tea plants dates back to two thousand years ago. Tea from China, along2.her silk and porcelain, began to be known to the world more than a thousand years ago and since then it 3.(be) an important Chinese export.
At present more than forty countries in the world grow tea with Asian countries，4.(produce) 90% of the world’s total output. All tea trees in other countries have their origin directly or indirectly in China. The word for tea leaves or tea as 5.drink in many countries are derivatives(衍生物) from the Chinese character “cha”. The Russians call it “cha’i”, 6.sounds like “chaye”(tea leaves) as it is pronounced in northern China, and the English word “tea” sounds similar to the pronunciation of7.(it) counterpart（对应物） in Xiamen. The Japanese character for tea is written 8.(exact) the same as it is in Chinese, though 9.(pronounce) with a slight difference. The habit of tea drinking spread to Japan in the 6th century, but it was not introduced to Europe and America till the 17th and 18th centuries. Now the number of tea10.(drink) in the world is still on the increase.
