Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no”.
A friend is moving house this weekend and would like some help, and you agree. But, what you really wanted was a couple of quiet days relaxing at home. Or a roommate spends the entire weekends playing video games and wants to borrow your homework for “reference”. But, you’ve just finished it after taking a whole day to work hard.
Many people say “yes” to these kinds of requests. They tend not to consider their own interests and feelings, and are often angry with themselves afterwards.
Saying “no” requires courage and considerable practice, in fact, according to psychologists.
“Everyone wants to be liked,” says Gabriele Steinki, a German psychologist. “Saying ‘no’ risks losing the affection of the person asking the favor or even a job.”
The result is that many people say “yes” just for keeping the peace. But experts say this is regrettable. Anyone should have the right to say “no”.
In fact, rejecting a request can even help to strengthen a relationship because it expresses a true feeling.
But, for people used to agreeing to every request, changing can be a long and uncomfortable learning process.
Most people believe that “If I say ‘no’, I'll lose the affection of the person. But the affection is important to me.” This way of thinking can be replaced by this: “If he only likes me because I always do what suits him , then the price of his affection is too high in the long term.”
Steinki says the key is talking to the other person to find a mutual (相互的) solution. “One heeds to present the situation from one’s own point of view, and to suggest how the situation can be dealt with to the advantage of both parties. The other person must have the feeling that his interests are being considered.”
When the refusal is not accepted, Steinki advises giving the reasons calmly again until the person gets the message.
1.Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no” because ________.
A. they don’t care about their own interests and feelings
B. they don’t know they will regret afterwards
C. they have already been used to saying “yes”
D. they care more about others’ affection
2. In the opinion of experts, _________ .
A. people need a lot of practice to say “no”
B. people should say “yes” to keep the peace
C. saying “no” means losing a job
D. people have the right to be liked
3.According to the writer, what should you do if you want to refuse the other person’s request?
A. Just say you can’t help him.
B. Say sorry to him.
C. Refuse him clearly.
D. Talk to the other person to find a mutual way.
4.According to the writer, what should you do if your refusal is not accepted?
A. Say yes to him.
B. Repeat your reason for his acceptance
C. Just go away
D. Say no to him
5.What is the best title of the passage?
A. You Need Courage To Say “No”
B. “Yes” More Than “No”
C Anyone Has The Right To Say “No”
D. It’s Hard To Say “No”
A little boy invited his mother to attend his school’s first teacher-parent parent meeting. To the little boy’s , she said she would go. This be the first time that his classmates and teacher his mother and he felt of her appearance. Although she was a beautiful woman, there was a severe scar(疤痕)that nearly the entire right side of her face. The boy never wanted to why or how she got the scar.
At the meeting, the people were by the kindness and natural beauty of his mother the scar, but the little boy was still embarrassed(尴尬)and himself from everyone. He did, however, get within of a conversation between his mother and his teacher.
The teacher asked , “How did you get the scar on your face?”
The mother replied, “ my son was a baby, he was in a room that caught fire. Everyone was afraid to go in because the fire was ，so I went in. As I was running toward his bed, I saw a long piece of wood coming down and I placed myself over him trying to protect him. I was knocked but fortunately, a fireman came in and saved both of us.” She the burned side of her face. “This scar will be , but to this day, I have never what I did.”
At this point, the little boy came out running toward his mother with tears in his eyes. He held her in his arms and felt a great of the sacrifice(牺牲)that his mother had made for him. He held her hand for the rest of the day.
1.A.disappointment B. enjoyment C. surprise D. excitement
2.A. would B. could C. should D. must
3.A. noticed B. greeted C. accepted D. met
4.A. sick B. ashamed C. afraid D. tired
5.A. included B. passed C. covered D. shaded
6.A. talk about B. think about C. care about D. hear about
7.A. impressed B. surprised C. excited D. comforted
8.A. in sight of B. by means of C. by way of D. in spite of
9.A. hid B. protected C. separated D. escaped
10.A. understanding B. reminding C. hearing D. learning
11.A. carefully B. seriously C. nervously D. anxiously
12.A. As B.When C. Since D.While
13.A. so B. much C. quite D. too
14.A. out of control B. under control C. in control D. over control
15.A. helpless B. hopeless C. senseless D. useless
16.A. pointed B. showed C. wiped D. touched
17.A. ugly B. lasting C. serious D. frightening
18.A. forgot B. recognized C.consider D.regretted
19.A. honor B. sense C. happiness D. pride
20.A. quietly B. slightly C. tightly D. suddenly
_____the programme, they have to stay there for anther two weeks.
A. Not completing B. Not completed
C. Not having completed D. Having
______at the cafeteria before ，Tina didn’t want to eat there again
A. Having eaten B. To eat
C. Eat D. Eating
Before driving into the city ，you are required to get your car______
A. washing B. wash C. washed D. to wash
After completing and singing it. Please return the form to us in the envelope _____.
A. providing B. provided
C. having provided D. provide
