Society is a web of relationships, requiring all parties(群体) to work together to create something good. What makes society work best are effective(有效的) relationships that are based on mutual(相互的) understanding. If you understand what people want and why they want it, you can usually find a way to make progress together.
High-quality relationships make people happy. Some people living in the poorest communities have almost nothing but turn out to be the happiest because they share a life, together. If effective relationships are working, happiness is always possible.
Here are some simple tips for building effective relationships.
Listen to and try to understand others' positions and feelings. Listening in itself can lead to understanding, and if you understand someone else fully, then you know how to work better with him or her.
Openly express your needs and feeling. Sometimes we expect people particularly those close to us at home or work to understand what we want and to give us what we need intuitively (凭直 觉地). However, people are so complicated and so different that even when they have lived together for 60 years, they can still surprise each other. So we need to say what we need and to express how we feel.
In order to make our relationships more effective, we should treat ourselves and other people with respect. Respect is one of the most important elements of any good relationship.
Finally, learn to face differences correctly. Learning this takes time and can be uncomfortable. However, if we can try to remove differences in an effective way, we are more likely to build exciting and satisfying relationships with others.
By doing these things you may discover that the happiness you long for is much closer than you thought.
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Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no”.
A friend is moving house this weekend and would like some help, and you agree. But, what you really wanted was a couple of quiet days relaxing at home. Or a roommate spends the entire weekends playing video games and wants to borrow your homework for “reference”. But, you’ve just finished it after taking a whole day to work hard.
Many people say “yes” to these kinds of requests. They tend not to consider their own interests and feelings, and are often angry with themselves afterwards.
Saying “no” requires courage and considerable practice, in fact, according to psychologists.
“Everyone wants to be liked,” says Gabriele Steinki, a German psychologist. “Saying ‘no’ risks losing the affection of the person asking the favor or even a job.”
The result is that many people say “yes” just for keeping the peace. But experts say this is regrettable. Anyone should have the right to say “no”.
In fact, rejecting a request can even help to strengthen a relationship because it expresses a true feeling.
But, for people used to agreeing to every request, changing can be a long and uncomfortable learning process.
Most people believe that “If I say ‘no’, I’ll lose the affection of the person. But the affection is important to me.” This way of thinking can be replaced by this: “If he only likes me because I always do what suits him , then the price of his affection is too high in the long term.”
Steinki says the key is talking to the other person to find a mutual (相互的) solution. “One needs to present the situation from one’s own point of view, and to suggest how the situation can be dealt with to the advantage of both parties. The other person must have the feeling that his interests are being considered.”[
When the refusal is not accepted, Steinki advises giving the reasons calmly again until the person gets the message.
1.Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no” because ________.[
A. they don’t care about their own interests and feelings
B. they don’t know they will regret afterwards
C. they have already been used to saying “yes”
D. they care more about others’ affection
2.In the opinion of experts, _________ .
A. people need a lot of practice to say “no”
B. people should say “yes” to keep the peace
C. saying “no” means losing a job
D. people have the right to be liked
3.According to the writer, what should you do if you want to refuse the other person’s request?
A. Just say you can’t help him.
B. Say sorry to him.
C. Refuse him clearly.
D. Talk to the other person to find a mutual way.
4.According to the writer, what should you do if your refusal is not accepted?
A. Say yes to him. B. Repeat your reason for his acceptance
C. Just go away D. Say no to him
5.What is the best title of the passage?
A. You Need Courage To Say “No” B. “Yes” More Than “No”
C. Nobody Has the Right To Say “No” D. It’s Easy To Say “Yes”
Would you believe that the first outstanding deaf teacher in America was a Frenchman? His name was Laurent Clerc. He became a friend of Thomas Hopkins Gallaudet and together they founded America's first school for the deaf.
Laurent Clerc was born in a small village near Lyons, France, on December 26, 1785. When he was one year old, he fell into a fire, losing both his hearing and his sense of smell.
At 12, Laurent entered the Royal Institution for the Deaf in Paris where he did well in his studies. After he graduated, the school asked him to stay on as an assistant teacher.
Meanwhile, in America, Thomas Hopkins Gallaudet was studying to be a minister. He was very concerned about the lack of educational opportunities for the deaf. Therefore, in 1815, Gallaudet sailed to London, England to seek ideas on how to teach deaf people. While he was there, he met a French educator of the deaf who invited him to go to Paris to spend three months learning at the Royal Institution for the Deaf, the school where Laurent Clerc was teaching. Gallaudet accepted the offer. The two worked and studied well together. When the time came for Gallaudet to return, he asked Clerc to come with him. Clerc accepted on one condition: that he would stay in America only a short time.
The two men set sail on June 18, 1816. The voyage across the Atlantic Ocean took 52 days; however, Clerc and Gallaudet put the time to good use. Clerc studied English, and Gallaudet studied sign language. They discussed the school for the deaf which they planned to open. On the long trip, they had many conversations about education and deafness. The year after they arrived, they founded a school for the deaf in Harford, Connecticut.
At the school, Clerc led a busy life. He taught signs to Principal Gallaudet; he taught the pupils; and he taught hearing men who came to the school to study deaf education.
In 1819, Clerc married Eliza Crocker Boardman, one of his pupils. They had six children. He retired from teaching in 1858. Although he had intended to return to France, he never did. He died on July 18, 1869 in the United States.
1.Why did Thomas Hopkins Gallaudet sail to London?
A. He needed to finish his studies to become a minister.
B. It was the easiest way to get to France.
C. He wanted to study their system of deaf education.
D. He wanted to marry Alice Cogswell.
2.From the information in this passage we can infer that__________.
A. Laurent Clerc was an intelligent man
B. Clerc had difficulties learning language
C. Clerc married Eliza in order to get his Green Card
D. Clerc was paid well because he made such important contributions to society
3.On their trip from Paris to America, Clerc and Gallaudet ___________.
A. played cards and socialized
B. studied and discussed their plans for a deaf school
C. founded a school for the deaf
D. Gallaudet studied English and Clerc studied Sign Language
4.Which is the right order of the things Clerc did？
A. met Gallaudet, moved to America, got married, went to school in Paris.
B. met Gallaudet, went to school in Paris, moved to America, got married.
C. went to school in Paris, met Gallaudet, moved to America, got married.
D. got married, went to school in Paris, met Gallaudet, moved to America.
5.The main idea of this passage could best be stated as_________.
A. Clerc managed his time well, succeeding in his career.
B. Thomas Gallaudet was indebted to Clerc for all that he taught him.
C. Clerc preferred teaching deaf students to hearing students.
D. Clerc, an educated Frenchman, had a great impact on American Deaf Education.
The booking notes of the play “the Age of Innocence”:
Price: ＄10
BOOKING
There are four easy ways to book seats for performance:
------ in person
The Box Office is open Monday to Saturday, 10 a. m.—8 p. m.
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Ring 01324976 to reserve your tickets or to pay by credit card（Visa, MasterCard and Amex accepted）
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Simply complete the booking form and return it to Global Theatre Box Office.
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Complete the on-line booking form at www. Satanfiedtheatre. Com
DISCOUNTS:
Saver: ＄2 off any seat booked any time in advance for performances from Monday to Thursday. Savers are available for children up to 16 years old, over 60s and full-time students.
Supersaver: half-price seats are available for people with disabilities and one companion. It is advisable to book in advance. There is a maximum of eight wheelchair spaces available and one wheelchair space will be held until an hour before the show.
Standby: best available seats are on sale for ＄6 from one hour before the performance for people eligible（suitable）for Saver and Supersaver discounts and thirty minutes before for all other customers.
Group Bookings: there is a ten per cent discount for parties of twelve or more.
School: school parties of ten or more can book ＄6 standby tickets in advance and will get every tenth ticket free.
Please note: we are unable to exchange tickets or refund money unless a performance is cancelled due to unforeseen circumstances.
1.If you want to book a ticket, you CANNOT _____
A. use the Internet.
B. ring the booking number and pay for the tickets by credit card.
C. go to the Box Office on Sundays.
D. complete a booking form and post it to the Box Office.
2.According to the notes, who can get ＄2 off?
A. The people who book the tickets on Fridays.
B. A 20-year-old full-time college student.
C. A 55-year-old woman.
D. An 18-year-old teenager.
3.If you make a group booking for a group of 14 adults, how much should you pay?
A. ＄120 B. ＄140 C. ＄150 D. ＄126
4.Which of the following is NOT true according to the passage?
A. A school party of 15 students should pay ＄90 for the standby tickets.
B. There are only 8 wheelchair spaces in the theatre.
C. A group of 12 persons can get 10 per cent discount.
D. The audience can’t refund money if the performance is on show.
5.What kind of tickets are the cheapest?
A. The standby tickets.
B. The standby tickets for school parties of ten or more.
C. The tickets for Saver discount.
D. The tickets for group booking.
Charlie looked at himself in the mirror. He found his face was red. He washed it with some cold water. He didn’t leave the bar until he felt 1. little better. Then he said goodbye 2. his friends and went to the bus stop.
Walking near to his house, the young man stopped to look at the windows. The lights were 3. and it meant 4. his wife were still waiting for him. He knew she was angry with him. She thought it was bad for his health to drink much, 5. she tried her best to stop him from doing it. He often promised he 6. soon quit drinking, but he couldn’t control 7. when he saw the wine at the party.
Charlie entered the bedroom quietly and saw his wife lying on the bed. Looking angrily at him, the woman said nothing. He had to play with the cat.
“Don’t play with the stupid pig, dear!” called the woman.
“It’s 8. a pig, but a cat,” the young man said with a smile.
“I’m not talking to you, but to the cat.”
Whenever my kids have a party at school, I am the mom who always signs up to bring the juice boxes. It’s not because I’m 36 or that I don’t care if my kids have a good party. I am just not good at making homemade bread into holiday-themed shapes like other mothers. However, I’m happy to try, even though it’ll take me a long time to do it.
People say that housewives should have the 37 to make delicious meals, keep their houses clean, and 38 every minute of their child’s life. Their words used to upset me a lot. I felt that I should also be able to do those things as a housewife. So when I couldn’t make the turkey-shaped cookies, I 39 feeling like a failure as a mom.
After many 40 attempts at baking, and many afternoons spent crying over my inabilities as a mother, I finally accepted the 41 that my lot(命运) in life is to be the juice box mom. I worked hard to be the 42 one in the elementary school. And after one of my daughter’s class parties, it 43 . Her teacher stopped me as I was leaving and said,＂Thank you so much for always bringing 44 drinks. Sometimes parents forget that other children will also 45 class parties, and they end up being left out because we don’t have enough drinks for everyone.＂
I just accepted her appreciation, rather than telling her that I brought extra drinks because I could 46 remember how many kids were in the class. But her appreciation taught me an important lesson: I’m not a failure as a mom.
Not everyone is cut out to be a(n) 47 mom. I believe it’s okay to be the juice box mom. I may not bake cookies and decorate them beautifully, but I provided something to drink. And I think that’s just as important.
1.A. smart B. tired C. lazy D. desperate
2.A. dream B. ability C. experience D. tool
3.A. compare B. save C. treasure D. teach
4.A. ended up B. went on C. insisted on D. set about
5.A. failed B. careless C. successful D. useful
6.A. goal B. opinion C. fact D. impression
7.A. slowest B. best C. worst D. quickest
8.A. stood out B. got out C. came back D. paid off
9.A. cold B. soft C. extra D. fresh
10.A. attend B. hold C. enjoy D. leave
11.A. already B. always C. ever D. never
12.A. loyal B. clever C. rich D. able
